Hate is a strong word

dkwrtw said:
What can I say, I guess I'm just a Fickle Cunt. :dunno
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I don't think you really hate the people you don't know...if that makes sense. I don't think you are a fickle cunt
:( I just think hate is a strong word for that feeling you have. I could be totally off base, I just think we are quicker to say "I hate so-and-so"...but we don't actually feel that. Sorry if you took offense to that.
 
darkangel said:
Yes as I do to but I'm working on not hating them. It really does eat you up when you hate someone. But some things are unforgivable but you can turn that hate around into a dislike I believe. And I agree I hate a lot of situations that I've come across too.
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One person I hate for the way I was treated for 22 years.. I can't forgive it.. but I try not to let it affect me..

The other person I hate for threatening to kill my mother and abusing her and a laundry list of things.. and stealing money from my future. Also he threated to kill me as well.. in this case I think hate works..

And situations.. I can hate them because if they change so do my feelings toward them.
 
GracefulIvory said:
I don't think you really hate the people you don't know...if that makes sense. I don't think you are a fickle cunt
:( I just think hate is a strong word for that feeling you have. I could be totally off base, I just think we are quicker to say "I hate so-and-so"...but we don't actually feel that. Sorry if you took offense to that.
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No offense was taken, I was being sarcastic.
 
jassilem said:
One person I hate for the way I was treated for 22 years.. I can't forgive it.. but I try not to let it affect me..

The other person I hate for threatening to kill my mother and abusing her and a laundry list of things.. and stealing money from my future. Also he threated to kill me as well.. in this case I think hate works..

And situations.. I can hate them because if they change so do my feelings toward them.
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Well those are good reasons to hate but doesn't it bother you to have such feelings toward people? I feel bad when I hate people even though they deserve to be hated. I feel sorry for them instead which alleviates that feeling of hate that I don't want burning inside of me. I'm not taking away from the reasons why you hate cuz believe me I have very good reasons to hate the 2 people that I hated but I found a sense of relief when I was able to come to terms with my feelings and just dislike them instead. I still hold onto a little bit of hatred but I'm sure that will dissipate in time and I will feel like a better person inside.
 
darkangel said:
Well those are good reasons to hate but doesn't it bother you to have such feelings toward people? I feel bad when I hate people even though they deserve to be hated. I feel sorry for them instead which alleviates that feeling of hate that I don't want burning inside of me. I'm not taking away from the reasons why you hate cuz believe me I have very good reasons to hate the 2 people that I hated but I found a sense of relief when I was able to come to terms with my feelings and just dislike them instead. I still hold onto a little bit of hatred but I'm sure that will dissipate in time and I will feel like a better person inside.
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The one hate I hold on to because it made me who I am.. the other hate I keep because it's still too raw to try an accept... maybe in a few years it will ease but right now.. it's a protection device.
 
There are 2 people that I can honestly without a doubt say I feel hate for. It's gotten better over the years as their impact on my life gets farther into the past, but I have never been able to find true resolution for the feelings.

And I think there's a tremendously large difference between being a hateful person and feeling hate towards another.
 
I throw around words like love and hate all the time. In fact I rarely say I just like something and if I do, it normally means I don't like it at all and I don't want to hurt the other person's feelings.

There are a few poeple I hate but I don't think about them too much.
 
I agree hate is a strong word. I only hate one person & that is my ex. He physically and mentally abused me for 6 months and I hate him for that. Other than him I only dislike certain people. I dislike people who are nasty towards me for no reason.
 
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